Everyday, we meet 4 kinds of people; those we like and those we don’t , those who like us and those who don’t. Our relationship to each one is different and dependent on what kind of vibration we developed upon meeting them.
I am always dis-appointed with my strained relations with a friend or a loved one. Recently i just realized that each relationship is unique. I though otherwise that i am a pre-judiced person and i lack the ability to be a good friend to everyone.
Understanding that every relationship is different will make us happy. We need to accept that our getting along with most but not all of our loved ones or friends is not a flaw but a reality. The university researchers explain that ” most satisfied people do not have happy relationships with everyone. They appreciate their happy relationships and accept the imperfect ones. As the old saying goes ” we cannot please everyone”. People have the capacity to create happiness from the relationships available to them and do not need all their relationships to fit an ideal image. (Takahashi, Tamura and Tokoro 1997)
In my case, i have many friends but i only have few close friends- those that i can relate very well. Since i accept that not everyone we met will be close to us gave me peace and contentment. Also, i am very much assured of the friendship that my husband and my children provides.
My motto is “Make friends not enemies”. And i want to make this a reality.
