Believe in Yourself and Don’t believe in yourself too much are both secrets of happy people.
If we don’t beieve in ourself, we can accomplish nothing and we’ll not be able to function. The only way to do anything is the belief that we can do it.
However, believing in ourself too much may also lead us to believe that we’ll never make a mistake. We are making ourselves dis-agreeable with others and cannot be liked or trusted. This will make us unhappy.
So, our belief in ourself should be balanced by the fact that there are also people better than us and can do better.
From Myers and Diener 1995, it says: Across all ages and all groups, a solid belief in one’s own abilities increase life satisfaction by about 30%, and makes us happier both in our home lives and in our work lives.
There was also a study on married couples that a significant connection is found between rigidity in one’s partner and discord in relationship. Where one partner is convinced he or she is correct and therefore not open to suggestions, the length of time disagreements continue is about three times greater ( Botwin, Buss and Shakelford 1997).
I think these 2 secrets are also the key to my harmonious relationship with my husband for 23 years now.
